I Confess...
Sometimes I HATE having a blog, Twitter, Facebook...basically ALL social media.
There is FAR too much room in the written word for interpretation and major misunderstandings can happen because of that.
Like a recent Tweet that I sent out that had NOTHING to do with anything blog related and EVERYTHING to do with real life (it has been cleared up, phew! but there was some residual damage, unfortunately).
I Confess...
I DO actually have a life that happens outside of my blog.
SHOCKER!!
And sometimes I have to deal with people I would rather not have to deal with...toxic people.
In real life it is a lot harder than just "unfollowing" to shake these people, or delete them from your lives.
Most times it is because you work with them or are on a committee together or they are your family (not MY family, just using it as an example...relax mom).
So if I Tweet something and you think it could be about you, it most likely isn't.
I Confess...
I am not passive aggressive AT ALL.
Yep, if I have a problem with you, you know it. I appreciate when people let me know what I offend them so I assume everyone else would like the same favor.
I like to know, so I can apologize...or have a conversation to explain myself and my position and maybe not apologize but respectfully agree to disagree.
I Confess...
Not everyone can handle it. I just like to keep it real, and do my best to approach things with respect.
I Confess...
I recently found out that there is a letter going around to "Blacklist Mamarazzi".
I heard about it from a few REAL friends. I kind of wish I didn't know about it.
I Confess...
Ignorance IS bliss...I would rather not know I have a bunch of mean girls trying to take my blog down.
I really also don't have time for such nonsense.
I Confess...
I have tried to use my blog as a platform to bring people together.
Through swaps, Etsy features, link parties and even Queen for the Day....I just want fabulous women to know other fabulous women.
There truly is no hidden agenda.
I am not trying to gain the most followers or be the queen of blogging.
Really, I could careless about the numbers.
I just want to provide a place for people the gather and maybe lift each other up in support and love.
And...I want to brag about my family a little a long the way.
I Confess...
It is OK if you don't like me. Really. It is.
But how about YOU decide for yourself instead of following along with some mean girls with nothing better to do than gang up on other bloggers?
How does that sound? You are a big girl, you really can choose your own friends.
And guess what? I am currently accepting new friends soooo WINNING!!
OH and please stop asking me if I am upset about new link parties happening on the same day as mine.
I do not OWN any day of the week. This is a BIG blogsphere and there is LOTS of room for link parties...including mine.
I wish my friends well...I really do. I think the people who REALLY know me, know my heart and there is zero room for petty junk that speaks otherwise.
Speaking of link parties...My Happy List has been getting very few link ups, I was going to bag it all together, but I believe that what you pay attention to grows...and I can always use MORE Happy in my life. HOWEVER, I am tired of blogging on the weekends so I want to move it to another day. Please go vote in my poll up there on my sidebar. Thanks.
41 comments:
I am sorry people are being mean. I don't get why the blogosphere has to turn into high school all over again with cliches. It seems so silly to me. I think moving the happy list is a great idea, lots of people don't blog on the weekend!
A "blacklist letter"? Are you feakin' kidding me? I swear it amazes me that some people feel like they have to "gather the troops" when they have a problem with someone. It's childish. We're all adults (or we're supposed to be), it doesn't have to be that way. It's sad really. I've seen it happen so many times here in the blog world.
I'm really sorry you're going through that. It sucks. Have a great weekend boo!
Mean girls are dumb...that is all...
Seriously.
Mean girls SUCK.
I always hoped that they would go away after high school.
SO not. the. truth.
Here's the thing. About Mean girls.
They SO peak in high school, when being mean is "cool". I believe they will do anything to maintain that "coolness" They never outgrown high school because it was the best time of their lives...nothing got better than that for them..so they hang onto it for dear life. They don't grow or change.
So....
I feel bad for them.
Because they may have had the best years of their lives in high school....for 4 stinkin years.
but...
the best time of my life is NOW.
I SO have it over them now.
So...
pooooey on them!
:)
Chin up!
I'm sorry that people are acting like that. Good for you for rising above it :)
Sorry that is happening to you. I have no idea why anyone would want to do that to you or your blog. Weird.
It is very immature.
There are people in "real life" I'd like to block as well! As for blasklisting....dude....I'm always gonna blog with you!!! LOL Don't let them get you down!
I have no idea why anyone would come up with a blacklist letter for your site; other than to just be mean. That's messed up. And I am glad you're considering moving the Happy List. I like that one but, like you, I just don't want to blog on weekends. Anyway, hope you get to enjoy yours. Don't let the mean girls get to you.
some people are such dorks. if you don't like or want to read someone's blog, then just don't. why the need to make a stink about it?
i hope you have a good weekend.
I've been reading a lot about drama on people's blogs. Luckily, I haven't seen anyone being negative, maybe I'm just friends with the right people =]
Have a good weekend!
XoXo
I'm so sorry about the drama! I can totally relate! My drama comes from someone I can't get away from (SIL). I'm like you, I'm not passive aggressive. I want to have a huge wonderful loud family and enjoy each other. We're not always going to see eye-to-eye, but that's okay. She makes things totally miserable at times, and others she's fine. She likes to make things up, like "Nobody talked to me today" (to her dad), um I know you don't know me IRL, but I talk to anyone, all the time...whatever, this isn't about me...sorry I digress. People suck sometimes, that's why I enjoy the blogger world so much, these are people I can read their posts and relate to them, and we aren't just friends because we went to high school together 15 years ago. I like social media, don't get me wrong. I love to keep up with my friends I went to college with, and some of my high school friends that moved away, but I can honestly say 40% are people who asked me and I can't say no to friending them because, at one time we were in chorus, or band, or key club together
It reminds me of the Carly Simon song You're So Vain. You probably think this blog(tweet) is about you, don't you? Don't you?
Hang tough! I enjoy your blog and would never sign something like that!
I'm sitting here in utter amazement. Somehow I've managed to stay under the radar of blog drama and OMG am I glad.
Blacklist? Seriously? First of all - YOU Of all people? One of the sweetest bloggers out there? And second of all, if someone starting a list to blacklist someone, it's time for that person to step away from the computer and reconnect with reality.
I am sad to say that I'm losing my passion for blogging and this is just another blow. I'm disgusted to know this is happening.
I'm also in disbelief. I guess I'm somewhat of a "sheltered" blogger with a small following, because I had no idea this kind of maliciousness was going on in the blog world. How mean, how petty, how STUPID.
I'm sorry you're going through this. Hugs to you, and know that you have many friends out here who have your back.
Some people just don't know how to grow up. They've taken the look at me, look at me to an extreme and if no one is looking at them they try to find a way to make it about them again.
Sorry you are dealing with this. Stupid petty people.
This is so crazy to me! I had no idea that "blog drama" even existed!!!
What is even the point?? They must be high schoolers, right?
I agree with the other Stacie because mean girls ARE dumb...and because us Stacies with nontraditional spellings need to stick together.
Hang in there, you still have people who love you :)
Some people just suck. I'm sorry that you've been having a hard time with people recently. I know I love you and so do a lot of others - hang in there. You've gotta have the good to appreciate the bad, right?
Wow, some people just can't move past high school, eh? Bravo to you for remaining above the petty passive BS (ya know, being the awesome adult that you are). It's a shame some people are so miserable in their own lives that they have to bring others down in order to feel good about themselves.
I, for one, appreciate how much work and love you put into this blog. I can't keep up, and I honestly don't know how you do it. But through you, I have met some amazing people, gotten inspired, had fun, and continue to expand my horizons. So THANK YOU for being here. :)
WOW. That's some serious drama. What is wrong with people? The internet is a big place. I'm HAPPY you are moving on cuz there are much better people (me) out there. Sadness.
I SWEAR, I left a comment earlier. Maybe I am loosing my mind.
Situations like this STINK!
sorry for what you are going through... But seriously, who has time in their life for negative people and drama... Remember, Karma is not nice... she will get them in the end I bet! Hang in there!
A blacklist???? Are we back in junior high? That is quite a cruel waste of time. I agree with you that I wouldn't want to know something like that. Ugh!
If I ever got a lettler like that I would unfollow the people who sent it to me. I wouldn't want to be online friends with someone like that.
I absolutely adore you in every way. I love and respect your "This is how it is" way of things-I think too many people are afraid to just be upfront. Give me blunt and honest over candy-coated BS any day!
Also, I love the Happy List link up more than any of them, I just don't tend to touch the computer on the weekends (need a break) so if you move it to another day I'll totally do it. I voted for Tuesday.
And finally, I saw a quote you'd love: "Don't try to win over the haters. You are not the jerk whisperer."
A black list ... seriously? They probably don't even know about McCarthyism. LOL I am so sorry. After catching such shows as 'Dance Moms' and 'Toddlers and Tiaras' I have to draw a conclusion that there are women who never really do grow up. They are always trying to compete and win ... probably out of some sense of being denied something somewhere along the line. It is truly sad. But, think of it this way ... anyone who goes along with those crazy shenanigans ... well, who needs them? Keep on keeping on ...
When I first started blogging, another blogger wrote once that the blogosphere is like high school...more like middle school if you ask me. What the french toast anyway??? Good for you for rising above!
And yeah, nobody has rights to any days for linkys. People pick and choose which day they will do what. And the fact that you are okay with that again shows that you are the better person once again.
PS..I am not in that loop because I never got that letter.
Are there any grown-ups left in Blog Land??? Doesn't sound like it. It's like there's a bunch of bratty high school girls!
Oh well, I'll stick to reading your blog if that's ok with you. :)
That's IT. I'm black listing you!
I don't get it.
Sorry to hear there's been some crap going on lately =( But, I wanted to say that I love your blog, and I love that you try to be active and respond to people's comments =) To me that shows you aren't just about the numbers. And even if you were, I wouldn't care, hehe!
Hope you are able to enjoy your weekend <3
Really? Do you honestly think that someone is taking the time to put together a blacklist? I really have a hard time believing this. I don't see the point. Much less, why would someone care that much to do this? I am sure people have better things to do with their time.
If I don't agree with someone on a particular topic, I just agree to disagree. What is the point in engaging them? it just turns out to be a big mess.
I really enjoy your blog - I have enjoyed your memes and your swaps, but honestly, when you post about negativity like this, it just makes me sad. You post about not being passive aggressive, but I think putting it out there for the whole world to see is a little passive - why not just go to the source and work it out if it bothers you that much. Or better yet, just let it go. Why do you want the whole world to know about the personal issues you have with friends?
I really hope this gets resolved. And if it doesn't, that's ok - it is clear that you have plenty of friends IRL and out in Bloggyland that love and adore you. Isn't that good enough?
~Becca
Oh Honey...I am sorry your having a tough time with whatever is happening in your Blog life or you out of blog life...truth there are unclassy people everywhere and Ta-da they blog too...
My opinion is this..Your life is your life..your blog is your blog..YOU run the whole lil show.. because it is YOURS...so who cares what other people think.
If you want to share how you feel via ANY social media ( Blog, fb, twitter) then you DO IT. Who cares if you offend or say something a little taboo...it is not as if your the only one to do it..
Sharing how you feel is a better way to deal with it than bottling it all up inside.
With all my rambling there being said I leave you with this..
I ADORE you and your blog, you continue to inspire me with every post I read...This one included...BIG BLOG HUG!!!
Keep your head up
Karma Kristin
Ewwww.....Mean Girls make me MAD!!!!
Seriously, I have not seen or heard anything against you, if so, I would pipe up.
I enjoy your blog, it makes me happy that I can reach out to meet others. I did not start to blog to meet people BUT once I got going, I am enjoying getting to know others and developing friendship. Thank You Mamarrazi!~
i have no idea what this is all about, and I suppose that is a good thing. i've got too much IRL drama to let blog drama in my life! :) life is too short for negatively and I hope you solve these problems soon.
I think this is pretty funny, actually. Seriously, people have nothing better to do than to try to get people to stop reading you? That's so lame. I'm guessing the majority of your readers are free thinking adults-- if they don't want to read you, they won't.
I suspect that the author of this blacklist letter is someone who either A) jealous because her linky parties aren't as popular as yours, or B) played in one of your swaps and didn't deliver as promised so she got blacklisted herself (my worse fear!)
Either way, don't worry your pretty little head over petty people. Your readers aren't going anywhere, and neither are you! :)
That's rough.
Personally I prefer to ignore someone I don't like, rather than spend time trying to ruin them.
Not just because I don't have the time, I don't think it's right either.
Besides, those sort of actions always come back to us in some way.
Girl, GIRRRRRLLLLL you KNOW I got your back. Earrings off, shoes off, hold my purse. I got this.
My theory? Being fabulous is the best revenge.
And you are super fabulous!
So how do you like twitter? I'm thinking of going there. Anonymous like. Maybe.
Anyway. Hugs and flip those bitches the ugly bird.
Oh and I totally believe in posting so you can get it off your chest. Then moving on.
I <3 you and I am the coolest so you are all set! :)
So, where do I submit my application for friendship? lol!
A blacklist? Really? People, come on. That is just so immature!
I know I've had issues with ya in the past. But after either talking to you about it, or just blogging about my feelings, I've gotten past it. I know you are a popular gal, so not everything is about me. lol!
I really hope all this drama dies down. I think if you need to write your feelings down, even if it's for all the world to see, then do that. It really does help. Even if it does create more of a "scene", but it's out there and not inside you. And that isn't good either.
Really, there is no winning when people get their feelings hurt.
I believe that no matter how much we try not to be like how we are in high school. It is those years that form who we are. And there will always be a little bit of "high school" in us all. And we're also girls. And, well, we're just trouble in of itself. lol
I hope you figure things out. I do really love and respect you tons. I think you are a stand out lady and are just trying to be honest in all that you do. And there is nothing wrong with that! :D
Wow. I deal with issues like this all the time in my life: because I have a middle schooler. Little girls can be toxic. Most mature and grow up to be kind, responsible women. Unfortunately, some reach their peak in middle school and never advance. They remain mean girls.
So sorry you have had to deal with these women.
I am stunned that someone wasted the energy to write a blacklist letter.
Wow.
~Ricki Jill
Wow! I guess there is just a whole other side to blogging that I never knew existed. I just write my little family blog and read a few blogs of friends, and a few other blogs I've come across. I had no idea there were "linky" parties or whatever (?) and people gettin' all crazy at each other and making blacklists. Hmm.
By the way, yeah, you can add me to your email thing that you mentioned. I'd like to read and participate regularly :0)
Meanwhile, don't let 'em get you down!
I'm a new follower, but haters gonna hate. It's sad and immature, but it always happens. You have a large following and with that there are always going to be people pissy about something.
I hope you don't let it bother you and have a wonderful weekend!
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