WOW! Thank you all so much for the wonderful and heartfelt advice, when i made my plea Advice Needed.... I feel so blessed to have such fabulous friends in my life, y'all are amazing!
After gathering a little more information on "Friend" and her mom and family situation i have decided it might not be in Friend's best interest to bring the issue to light with her mom. Jordan has decided that she will not be inviting Friend to our home because she cannot trust her. The last few days J has basically been obsessing over the whole situation; checking for missing things, thinking about things from the past that have gone missing, and wondering if Friend had anything to do with it. J's trust has basically been shattered and our hearts are breaking for her as she realizes that not everyone makes good choices all of the time. Tough lesson to learn, but I think she is gathering strength in knowing she does not want to be the kind of person that cannot be trusted.
We talked a lot about possibly helping Friend by continuing to invite her to our home and giving her another chance. The weight of that responsibility is just more than we are willing to take on right now, considering this is a girl that Jordan ONLY sees if she is invited to our home for a gathering. We did discuss that we think we would be more willing to help a friend who J saw everyday and was closer to, should this situation ever happen again.
Your advice was so very much appreciated. We read it as a family and came to these decisions collectively. So thank you...from all of us.