my mind is totally wrapped around being a GOOD example to my kid. i think of the outside influences she has in her life. i think about the "little things", like someone telling her to lie about her age for a discounted meal or entry somewhere. i think about people in her other family that smoke or drink or swear or lie. and i think..ENOUGH! i can't change anyone. but i can make sure that at least on MY watch i surround my child with people who will not only enrich her life but provide a powerful example of the RIGHT stuff.
one of my all time favorite quotes is "if you can't be a good example you will have to serve as a terrible warning". my mission with MY child is two fold...ONE be a really good example, practice what i preach, be the kind of person that i want her to grow up to be AND point out when i am less than perfect. and TWO point out the not so good examples. i try REALLY hard not to do that, i HATE passing judgment. i usually just say "well it's not what i would choose for my life". but i am adding, " and i really hope you don't ever choose that for your life, you are better than that bad choice". no matter WHO the person doing it is.
Jordan is really at that age where she is looking at the world with new eyes. she is watching. she is developing her own sense of herself. she is really paying attention to the world and how things in her life work, and basing decisions on the facts that she is gathering. it is so HUGE. it's like a critical turning point as she enters her teen years. soon she will jumping in with both feet, no longer dipping her big toe in and testing the waters. i want to make sure she is well prepared. its a big job but i am totally up for it!
THIS moved me to tears...it has a deep and powerful message.
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This made me cry! What a huge responsibility we have as parents and how important out job can be. I applaud you for recognizing your control and limits (we can't control other people) but doing what you can within your control and being the best role model you can be and explaining why certain decisions are not good.
Wow. That video was so powerful. And you are absolutely right about what you said about the things you are teaching your daughter. I try to do the same thing with my daughter now (at age 7).
it was oh so true. and oh so very sad.
it was oh so true. and oh so very sad.
It is so hard to see my eleven year-old son approach tween-dom and beyond.
I know of what you speak! It is an awesome responsibility and it is scary!
Adrienne
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I am absolutely terrified of the point at which I stop having such control over my children. I filter so much for them now and feel so crushed under the huge responsibility. I would do anything to protect them from all that I know is around the corner. Like you beautifully said, though, I can only equip them with the tools necessary to navigate the rest of the journey. And I can pray like mad that they made wise choices. Then I can love them through the good and the bad.
Jordan has a wonderful mommy. :-)
Not sure what to say besides WOW! Sometimes the responsibility we have can be pretty overwhelming.
That video made me cry too. It is so sad what children get exposed too.
Yeah to everything everyone said.
Yep, they learn from what they see. Scary that. Thanks for the reminder.
That was powerful. Thank you for sharing.
I think about those things all the time. It's scary and it's encouraging. Scary becuase it's a big bad world out there. Encouraging because even though we don't have total control over what influences our kids, we can be part of their positive influences.
Oh my goodness. This is so touching and scary. What type of people are being raised in this generation? I guess I know stuff like this occurs, but I'm like an ostrich sometimes, and don't want to think about it too closely because it makes me upset. This was a good reminder.
AHHH! I almost had to stop it and couldn't finish it. When the guy was hitting his wife and the little boy was mimicking it. Heart ache.
Utter heartache.
Very powerful video. Thank you so much for sharing.
This brought me to tears! But it's so true! My hubby and I were just talking the other night about the huge responsibility it is to raise children and our deep desire to be good examples to them to they turn out to be genuinely good people! Thanks for sharing!
very powerful...yet so true...children learn by example..you are doing an awesome job...you are a great mom!!
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