my mind is totally wrapped around being a GOOD example to my kid. i think of the outside influences she has in her life. i think about the "little things", like someone telling her to lie about her age for a discounted meal or entry somewhere. i think about people in her other family that smoke or drink or swear or lie. and i think..ENOUGH! i can't change anyone. but i can make sure that at least on MY watch i surround my child with people who will not only enrich her life but provide a powerful example of the RIGHT stuff.
one of my all time favorite quotes is "if you can't be a good example you will have to serve as a terrible warning". my mission with MY child is two fold...ONE be a really good example, practice what i preach, be the kind of person that i want her to grow up to be AND point out when i am less than perfect. and TWO point out the not so good examples. i try REALLY hard not to do that, i HATE passing judgment. i usually just say "well it's not what i would choose for my life". but i am adding, " and i really hope you don't ever choose that for your life, you are better than that bad choice". no matter WHO the person doing it is.
Jordan is really at that age where she is looking at the world with new eyes. she is watching. she is developing her own sense of herself. she is really paying attention to the world and how things in her life work, and basing decisions on the facts that she is gathering. it is so HUGE. it's like a critical turning point as she enters her teen years. soon she will jumping in with both feet, no longer dipping her big toe in and testing the waters. i want to make sure she is well prepared. its a big job but i am totally up for it!
THIS moved me to tears...it has a deep and powerful message.