Monday, March 3, 2014
Sunday, March 2, 2014
Took this precious baby to the ER tonight.
He has been having major outbursts out of the clear, happy, blue sky. Screaming in pain.
So. Very. Sad.
I knew something was wrong, terribly wrong after he was inconsolable when he woke up from a late nap today.
He was screaming like every piece of his body hurt.
We got to the ER and they saw him right away, ears clear, no fever, blah blah.
I'm worried his leg is hurt cuz it got stuck in his crib yesterday. But they messed w his legs and said no.
They also took blood and all looks great there.
They wanted to X-Ray his belly. So they did.
Said he was constipated and gave him a suppository and he pooped.
I'm not convinced he was constipated because he has been pooping fine.
Maybe gas, he has a major tooty booty.
But I can't shake that "feeling".
I know MY baby.
I will be following up w his reg pediatrician at Kaiser on Monday.
Tonight was scary. Not being able to console my baby was hard.
I just want him to feel better.
Thank goodness for his chupie, books, his giggle toy and BabyFirstTV to help pass the 3 hours we were there.
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This post is from my sister Meg's blog. You can find the original here: http://cuzimkeepinitreal.blogspot.com/2014/02/motherhood-appreciation-starts-with.html?m=1
A Matt Walsh blog post defending Stay at Home Mothers floated around on Facebook last week and it really got my wheels turning (in a good way). But the comments/response in a few post threads made me sad. So much guilt, attacking, ugliness, between mother readers. The message was getting lost. Here's this guy, defending what we do, and here are the mothers tearing ourselves down. Here are my thoughts about all that.
Wait. What did she say?!
Truth: Motherhood is not a highly revered calling in today's world.
I don't think there is any one specific demographic that is immune to this kind of thinking. It isn't the working mom's fault. Not the fault of women who have no children. We cannot blame men, either. I sometimes feel like these great essays that proclaim the greatness of our work are being shouted at or shoved upon the wrong crowd. These essays have a great message, but the message is getting mixed up in the delivery and the contention is dividing mothers instead of bringing us to support one another. Mothering is about love. It is not about whether or not you are the bestkind of mother (what is that, anyway?), a nursing mother, a working mother, a home schooling mother, a mother of 7, a mother of one, or a mother to none. (I know many women who have no children of their own who still respect the role to mother and care for other people.) Working mothers are attacked just as much as stay at home mothers.
So. What do we do about it?
Remember when I said, "My opinion doesn't matter?" Well,…it matters to ME, but my opinion about how you mother really shouldn't matter to you. We aren't here to give scores and tell the world how each other are doing at the job. We can only rank the job itself...the experience and opportunity, not the people participating.
Right now, I give Mothering a 10.
If we can only control how we feel about ourselves and we want the world to respect and love our job, then WE need to remember to respect and love our job.
It has to start with us.
Do we realize the importance of our role? Do we express this realization in a way that can change the thinking of the world and affect it in a positive way?
Ever log onto Facebook to see it littered with complaints from mothers about children or mothering? Perhaps by people who've forgotten our job is a 10 and are ranking Motherhood a 2 today:
"UGH, when does school start again?", "oh no not another snow day!", "I need a break", "I'm going to lose my mind if I have to spend another day stuck at home with these kids," and the like. I understand that these comments are only proof of the extreme difficulty of our jobs. I also see a real problem here: It's not the outside world persecuting us to a lesser role. We already HAVE the greatest role and our words often don't express that we respect it. We are becoming our own oppressors and we are raising a generation of Motherhood oppressors.
Lets stop trying to change outside opinions about motherhood by talking about how hard it is. Let's change our own opinions and then talk about how awesome Mothering is. Let's ponder how much we love and appreciate the opportunity to be creative, let's be nurturing with our divine gifts and talents and share that joy with our children and others.
Here are a few ideas:
Instead of, "I will never sleep again. Last night was the worst. Baby was up all night and would only go to me." Try, "It feels really good to know I was the most important person in the world to my baby when he wouldn't let anyone else hold him at 3am. I was the only one with the skills to comfort him. I am trusted with this job and I am doing it."
What would happen if we as mothers changed our own thinking about motherhood and children? I'm not just sugar coating reality with a Pollyanna positive spin. I'm giving our job the credit it deserves. Motherhood is a divine calling with glory and power to create and cultivate. Let's remember that responsibility and gift when we are dealing with something difficult.
Teach yourself, remind yourself, and teach your children and raise them to respect and understand our great work. Motherhood appreciation starts with Mothers who show their appreciation. A future generation will reap the reward: when mothers no longer express the need to tear down or step upon one another to find a higher place in the social climb. We might not be around to see that day, but that's ok. It's not about us, anyway.